Passion and habit: how they dialogue
Between habit and passion there are two other basic key words: detail and instinct. If you pay attention to small details and don’t overthink, you can maintain an excellent balance between the actions we repeat together or for the partner, while if we act on instinct without letting our thoughts prevail too much, that’s when the fire stays lit. The fire metaphor remains an excellent image to explain how something alive and warming should be kept active at all times. If you really think of a fireplace with a flame inside, you will know very well that the flame itself grows, subsides, changes, evolves, makes sounds, varies.
In order to make sure that the fire does not go out completely one must be aware of where the flame is going at any given moment, what kindles our inner one, how the other’s is, and how the two meet. The dialogue in this sense remains something fundamental. You can notice a lot through kissing, caressing and nonverbal communication, but talking is also needed and it pays to do it in a relaxed, calm way. Do not make judgments, do not express expectations through complaints, always try to raise theempathy and listening to each other.
Rediscovering oneself/every day
The “cup” of love concerning the value toward oneself/and oneself should always be full or at any rate regenerated with fresh water. Fresh should also be the eyes with which we look in the mirror every morning and with which we present ourselves to each other. Keeping the focus on oneself(s) as a couple also means being sure that the relationship is something dynamic and not stagnant. But how do you rediscover yourself/themselves day by day?
First of all, one should not stop studying and reading. Then to ask oneself questions about one’s own pleasure, with a positive mind and without going looking for shortcomings or entering judgment on the other person. One must constantly get passionate about something and delve into it, whatever it is. Remember that pleasure has a direct connection with the brain, and if you expand your views you may be able to expand the side of that which concerns your intimate desire as well. Believe it or not, for improve sex and the intimate sphere or to really take it to another level, you could start by… meditating! Certainly this sounds like bizarre advice, as it is a seemingly still, static practice. Instead, by meditating you find yourself with yourself/themselves, you gain a serene trend that allows you to caress, turn on and turn on in a completely different, truly authentic way. One approaches one’s partner with greater awareness of one’s actions, one refines all one’s senses, and above all, one’s mind does not wander while sharing a bed and changing effusions. One enjoys with greater gusto the present, and this means being able to give oneself and oneself.
Rediscovering the usual partner
Choosing a person and being with them means fighting, rolling up your sleeves, being faced with the same person every day while knowing that every day you change. Fear of love and insecurities sometimes throw themselves on others, and this is likely to happen even in long-standing relationships. Life goes on as we share it, and some things that happen to us can awaken wounds or fears. Every day the person in front of us appears the same but inside there are many currents moving: dreams, new creations, desire for travel, internal discoveries, paths, interests.
That is why it becomes very important to question, to ask, to catch up with each other’s movements. If your partner is undergoing an emotional stalemate, you can give yourself/them a book gift, invite them to see a movie, get them interested in something new. If you see that your partner is having problems with his or her body, if he or she feels the advancing years or if he or she experiences some transitional phases poorly, you can help him or her live to the fullest by motivating, complimenting, and spurring toward movement and exercise.
Pamper yourself and pamper yourself
If you have stopped or reduced outpourings, it is necessary for you to return to pampering, spoiling each other, giving each other gifts, even not too expensive, but meaningful ones. You can choose to do something you have never done together. Take time to relax together, even do yoga, practice, massage each other. Try to regain the immense power of gentleness, avoid over-analyzing mentally, and try to connect with your inner and each other’s emotions.
Also seek physical contact in different dimensions and conditions or scenarios and also use new communication in bed, experiment. Start taking care of your physical appearance in a different way and try to strengthen the couple through small unexpected gestures. Starting with something small, build trust that also goes through skin and a sense of belonging. If the person you are with likes to plan, make an effort to create new visions, new plans. If you are fighting a lot, remember that you can every day learn how to argue in a new way. Create evenings where you nurture passion, where food becomes a pampering and the desire to eat together grows bite by bite.
