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What it is
The BDSM acronym stands for: Bondage and Discipline, Domination and Submission, Sadism and Masochism. These are all very eloquent words that explain a lot about what the general pleasure trends.
Although BDSM practices are considered practices corresponding to Atypical and unusual sexual behaviors, in fact are quite widespread. Being tied, whipped, or spanked are all practices that bring pleasure to those who enact them. They should not be immediately labeled as “strange” habits, but real practices that also have an important implication on stress management, self-esteem, the way one stands in the world. One experiences pleasure dominating or being dominated/and and orgasm approaches the borderline with humiliation, submission, control. Those who dominate do so with absolute perfectionism and precision, and those who are dominated enjoy the honor of having this role. Roles can vary, alternate, subvert or remain the same.
Respect should not be thought of as diminished; on the contrary. Emotion becomes intense when the person lets go or when he or she completely dominates. Pain has an implication of deep pleasure and in submitting one gives oneself as much when in dominating one moves toward a focus on the other person. One should not think that boundaries are undefined: very often they are unspoken but among the people involved there subsists a great, great understanding.
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A particular form of submission and dominance lies in theart of Shibari which contemplates ropes, suspensions, particular knots, specific wrappings. In this case, the person who is tied and/or suspended takes immense pleasure in the treatment and the person who ties and suspends takes pleasure in the folds of flesh, the bruises that form, the condition of suffering, the sweat. Each knot is studied and tightened with precision, dedication, care, and immense pleasure. One should not imagine that pampering is diminished in an absolute sense, on the contrary; very often it is precisely the alternation between pleasure and beating, between caresses and pain that makes the eros grow absolute and intense.
Pleasure in BDSM
This practice goes conducted in a safe and peaceful manner for anyone participating and this represents an unspoken and implicit code. One must speak up if something is not proceeding and inform as something new is introduced. In rehearsing one realizes how consensual and mutual the pleasure is and must always be.
It should be mentioned that there is usually a password through which the two people understand each other and understand how and how far to go. The password takes the name Safe Word and is decided by mutual agreement. When it is spoken it makes immediately end the game. Risk should never be taken beyond the bearable limit, and the word serves precisely to establish this limit, even when one wants to advance or try something new not decided before.
Practices
Let’s look at some of the practices of pleasure recurring in BDSM.
Spanking
The actual spanking which involves hitting with bare hands or helping oneself with various objects, including strange ones. Certainly the riding crop remains the undisputed prince of this habit, but usually the couple indulges in various ways.
Gagging
Consists of oral sex involving a very firm and forceful thrusting of the penis inside the other person’s mouth. Again, the recipient must experience pleasure given by the determined insertion into the oral cavity.
Trampling
Practice that involves being trampled either barefoot or by a person with vertiginous heels. Many men enjoy this practice but it also recurs quite a bit in lesbian fetish circles. The one walking on the body has role of dominatrix and the one underneath is submissive.
Generic humiliation
Words, phrases, nicknames, or cages, leashes, attitudes that would occur, for example, between dog and master: there are many instances of humiliation, and it must always happen that the two agree. Immobilization, shaking, moving games and similar actions are a constant, as is playing the master and the pet.
Role-playing games
The classic “let’s do that.” From the aggressive doctor to the punitive nurse to the “filthy” lawyer under the sheets or the judge who passes his sentence with a riding crop. There are so many roles and the imagination here truly ranges endlessly.
Breath Play
Consists of play through moments of induced suffocation. Depriving the other person of oxygen brings the maximum erotic moment closer and often coincides with orgasm. Sometimes actions are done on the neck or nose but there are also suits that create a vacuum, an instant vacuum. L’listening to the person with whom this dimension is experienced becomes crucial.
BDSM party
Some of these practices are not only done in the couple but really create occasions of convivial dimension where people share quirks, fantasies, habits, partners and more. These are the so-called BDSM parties. In some specific cases, workshops or events are also done where learning new knots, techniques, use of tools plays a key role.
