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What do men pay attention to during sex?
During sexual intercourse, men (like women) close their eyes and let their other senses take over. However, very often they look at what is happening: this happens because sight is one of the senses that most creates sexual arousal. There are certain details that men notice when having sex: from body care to looks to resourcefulness. It is important to know them, but regardless of the various aspects that the partner may notice, what matters is not to change one’s body or way of being to please your partner: it is important to feel free to be the way you are, in intimacy as well as in everyday life.
But what do men observe most while having sex?
The skin and the body
The chills and the goose bumps that are created by the excitement and the undulatory movements of the body during positions in sexual intercourse are among the things that most attract a partner’s attention. Although we often have sex with our eyes closed to feel more involved or to amplify the sensations, opening our eyes and watching our partner and the movements is something very arousing. It is no coincidence that sight, for women but especially for men, is one of the senses most used for arousal. During sexual intercourse looking at the face of the partner with expressions of pleasure, the body and the natural physical reactions this has with arousal (sweating, shivering, small spasms) is a beautiful way to enjoy the moment by increasing pleasure and sexual desire.
The spirit of initiative
Talk about resourcefulness, in daily life as well as in intimacy, is always a very appealing aspect. Among the things that men may not like during sexual intercourse, in fact, is precisely having to always take the initiative or follow the same script, with the same positions. If you think about it, such a situation probably doesn’t satisfy you either and it might be time to change something, vary sexual positions or, why not, experiment with new places to have sex.
Similarly, always waiting for the partner to take the initiative could be unnerving: of course, it is not a competition and it is not important to emphasize who takes the initiative more often, but certainly passionate involvement is very much appreciated, on both sides of the couple.
The complicit gaze
Despite being common and completely normal Making love with your eyes closed, opening your eyes and finding your partner’s gaze is always a moment of great pleasure and emotional involvement. If closing your eyes during sex allows you to let go of the pleasure and the various emotions and sensations you feel, it is equally true that Looking into each other’s eyes during sex is a moment of great complicity. For your partner, and probably for you as well, seeing each other’s eyes looking into your own is a tangible way of noting that what you are experiencing is pleasurable and satisfying, evidence of mutual pleasure that increases fellowship and arousal.
The details
If the saying “even the eye wants its share” is true, some aspects that could be observed concern the body: the care of the physique or underwear, for example, are details that the partner might pay attention to. Of course, these are superficial and not fundamental aspects since no one, neither the partner nor yourself, should demand perfection, but body care is one aspect that is not underestimated. Having scented skin or underwear other than standard underwear may please your partner, however, it should neither block you nor make you feel embarrassed if, for example, you are not wearing sexy underwear. On the contrary, if this happens, it can be an opportunity to laugh about it and find alternative ways to have mindless sex (such as deciding to make love in the dark or quickly removing your underwear).
The Breath
It may seem obvious, but hearing the partner’s breath increase is one of the most immediate ways to understand sexual involvement and physical pleasure. It doesn’t matter if you strive to create deeper breaths or more intense moans: it may happen that you simulate an orgasm in order not to hurt the other person’s feelings, to increase a synergy or for other reasons related to subtle couple games and self-esteem, however, it is advisable to talk to your partner or direct him or her to what you really like to experience pleasure without pretending. During sexual intercourse, breathing is more labored and rapid according to the increase in arousal experienced: it is a very intimate and intense moment, which brings pleasure and increases the couple’s togetherness.
