- Emotional Insecurity: Low self-esteem stemming from past traumas or negative self-image can hinder sexual self-discovery and orgasm.
- Stress and Anxiety: Chronic stress can lead to sexual dysfunction, reducing arousal and impeding orgasm due to distraction and physiological stress responses.
- Relationship Issues: Disconnect or lack of communication with a partner can result in reduced sexual satisfaction, feeling unfulfilled and impeding orgasm.
- Performance Pressure: Unrealistic expectations surrounding sexual performance might induce anxiety, leading to difficulties achieving orgasm and low self-esteem.
- Lack of Intimacy: Limited physical closeness or emotional intimacy can suppress sexual arousal and diminish self-esteem, affecting orgasmic experience.
Orgasm disorders
Letting go of a partner also means discovering strength from feeling vulnerable. Orgasm represents a “triumph” of sensations. related to the vascular, endocrine, muscular and nervous systems. The brain plays a key role. Sometimes what we think slows it down, inhibits or blocks it. Psychological conditions, overall physical health and our level of self-esteem are closely related to orgasm. The confidence we have in ourselves/and plays a key role in the gradual process of arousal that “ends” in orgasm, when we experience pleasure in a relaxed and full way. The experience of orgasm is overwhelming, and it is followed by the resolution phase in which we experience muscle relaxation and general well-being.
There are many disorders that block orgasm and the next phase such as sexual aversion disorder, desire disorder (initial phase characterized by a strong physical and mental need to have intercourse with the person who attracts us), arousal disorder (phase preceding orgasm and characterized by a feeling of sexual pleasure with erection in men and lubrication in women), sexual pain disorder (dyspaurenia), and vaginismus. Recall that both types of orgasm in women (clitoral or vaginal/coital) arise from the stimulation of the clitoris and are experienced first in the “brain” and can result in experiences of immense pleasure visible through squirting, the woman’s sacred fluid. In men, too, orgasm-visible through ejaculation-synthesizes a series of psycho-neuro-physiological processes that occur during the climax in the orgasm phase of the sexual response cycle that reach the acme, the maximum point of pleasure.
5 factors that block orgasm and decrease self-esteem
Let’s look together at the 5 factors that inhibit or totally block orgasm and have negative effects on the sense of self-esteem:
Comparisons and a sense of shame
Comparing oneself to someone or comparing one’s partner to previous relationships does not help the achievement of pleasure. The same applies to conditions of shame toward one’s body or toward the intimate sphere in general. Shame blocks expression, limits it, and damages it. Improve the relationship with one’s body, Accepting oneself and accepting one’s partner in his or her imperfections is the best way to fully enjoy.
Thinking that orgasm is the end point.
Some people embark on an intimate approach immediately thinking of orgasm as the end point. Instead, we need to reverse course and enjoy the present moment and the instant when a person gives themselves to us or we give ourselves to them. The path to pleasure starts with a caress and itself means pure pleasure. If one thinks of theorgasm as the goal one rarely gets to enjoy fully and for long, the mind remains fixed on one point and one does not proceed further in getting to know oneself/others.
Devaluing judgment about one’s own body
If you lack confidence in your body, you may not want to share it with another person, and this hurts the relationship in the long run. Look at yourself in the mirror and try to List the things that you like. Also talk to yourself in the mirror, try to build a bond with who you are. If you had judgments, criticism, controversy about your appearance as a child, it becomes difficult to fully accept yourself and enjoy sexual stimulation. Become aware of your erogenous zones and is another important step; what brings you pleasure and which zones are sensitive. Communicate this to yourself and then to your partner, in explicit or implicit ways, even by playing, joking.
Do not converse with your partner
Orgasm is often not achieved if there is a lack of dialogue. A foundational part of the relationship, dialogue is the basis of pleasure. Not too much, not too little, just right. If there have been some unspoken disrespect, if you do not forgive your partner something worth talking about, it would be good to do so. In summary, what is not found on the plane of conscience goes between the sheets. Always try to talk to the person with whom you share the sexual act; dialogue is good for the intimate relationship.
Thoughts, guilt, pleasure
If one experiences pleasure as a sin, perhaps because of beliefs passed down in the family, inhibition is triggered and it becomes a problem to fully experience orgasm. Some ingrained religious beliefs but not deeply felt lead to not letting go and maintaining very counterproductive forms of control that do not allow one to open fully to pleasure. The morality succeeds in creating pleasure inhibition in a major way, even if we like and are very aroused by our partner. This self-boycotting mechanism does not allow full enjoyment and sometimes has precisely the effect of a bomb that self-explodes (or implodes) inside the relationship. If the mind never detaches, in addition to guilt, one finds oneself handling physical contact without fully experiencing it, and this makes it very difficult to give oneself to the other or the other.
