Sexual empathy is the ability to understand and share another person’s sexual feelings and experiences. It involves respecting boundaries, communicating openly, and being mindful of the other person’s needs.
How to tell if you have it:
- Do you actively listen to your partner’s desires?
- Do you consider their comfort level in all situations?
- Can you identify and address their needs and concerns?
How to train it:
- Practice active listening: Pay attention to your partner’s words and body language.
- Communicate openly and honestly: Express your own needs and feelings while respecting theirs.
- Seek feedback: Ask your partner if they feel understood and respected.
References:
- The Science of Love: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-science-love/201903/the-science-love-how-to-make-your-relationship-last
- Building Intimacy: https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-build-intimacy-in-a-relationship-2795916
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Sexual empathy: the pros and cons in possessing it
Those who experience a’sexual empathy has a deep and intense experience that not all people can experience. It is possible to train it and work on one’s own and the other person’s needs and desires, but it is important to know what it means to be sexually empathetic and to remember that beyond the sexual aspect, there is much more to a loving relationship.
What is sexual empathy?
Do you know the meaning of empathy? It is that emotional state in which we put ourselves in the shoes of others Trying to step into that situation as the other person experiences it. You understand their state of mind and the emotions they are experiencing. Sexual empathy is basically the same thing, but a physical and emotional level: the person who possesses sexual empathy has a particularly intense sensitivity regarding sex and the emotional relationships and love relationships.
Understanding sexual empathy: the pros and cons
Being a sexually empathetic person means experiencing sexual intercourse with a very high involvement, connecting so much with their partner that they feel their moments of joy and pleasure, but also those of anxiety and stress. For this reason, casual relationships for a person with this type of empathy are almost never considered: he or she will focus only on one partner, in a stable relationship, so as to experience sexual involvement totally.
While sexual empathy is a beautiful and intense emotion, as sexual intercourse is literally experienced together with the partner, on the other hand, for the same reason, it can be a major stress to have to endure. At the same time, one of the biggest problems for those who feel sexual empathy is finding a partner who feels the same emotional degree: being two empathic partners is the best way to experience a relationship (and a sexual relationship) because the two people will understand and respect each other, which is not always the case if one of them is not a sexual empath.
When can sexual empathy be risky?
When there is strong sexual chemistry and mutual sexual fulfillment, there is a tendency to mistake it for a strong feeling such as love. It is true that love and sexual empathy can coexist or can be improved over time, with willingness and care, but there may be sexual empathy without love: in this case, it is important to be careful to catch the signs outside the sexual relationship that might indicate poor compatibility or, even, a toxic relationship. Although good sexual chemistry is important to make a relationship work, it is certainly not the only thing that is needed: in addition to good sexual chemistry you need to have complicity even outside of bed.
Also, it is important to always know who you are facing when we are in sexual intimacy (and empathy): narcissists often use this characteristic to establish the wrong relationship based on dependence and guilt.
How to know if you have sexual empathy?
There are specific aspects that distinguish this state of mind and leave no doubt:
- Without words or gestures, the empathic person understands what the other person is feeling: on a sexual level, it means that no words will be needed to understand whether the partner is struggling or uncomfortable or, on the contrary, whether he or she is fulfilled and happy
- The emotional involvement during sexual intercourse is very high: sex is experienced with passion and transportation
- Casual intercourse is not covered or are discouraged: this is because by experiencing the intimate moment so intensely, those who are sexual empathizers immediately bond with their partners, even if a relationship is casual
Improving sexual empathy: here’s how to do it
When we talk about sexual empathy, we are talking about one engaging state of mind during sexual intercourse. Therefore, the following are often recommended Tantric practices to combine eroticism and spirituality, but also to channel both partners’ energies and thoughts on certain emotions. Another way to learn about and improve sexual empathy is to talk, so you can understand certain situations and emotions. It is important to know your own desires so you can communicate this to your partner in the best way.
