Sexselfie: why people take photos during sex

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Sexselfie Recommendations

  • Exploration & Experimentation: Individuals may explore their sexuality and experiment with different sexual acts.
  • Boosting Confidence & Body Image: Some view selfies as a way to affirm their desirability and body image.
  • Intimacy & Connection: Sex selfies can be a method of connecting with a partner or expressing intimacy.
  • Desire & Arousal: Visual stimulation can fuel sexual desire and increase arousal, leading to selfie-taking.
  • Memory & Record: Capturing moments of intimacy can create a tangible memory to be revisited.
  • Sharing & Communication: Some share the photos with partners as a way to communicate desires and preferences.
  • Power Dynamics: Sex selfies can be related to issues of power and control, either asserted or experienced.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7825771/
https://www.healthline.com/health/sex-and-intimacy/sex-selfies

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A couple photographs themselves in bed

The passion for the selfie has crossed all borders and arrived under the bed sheets. For some time now, the selfie before, during and after intercourse has caught on, starting in countries such as Taiwan, Japan and the British Great Britain, so much so that talk of sexseflie-mania. The smartphone is also becoming increasingly present in our intimacy, often brutally shared on the social with hashtags such as. #sexselfie or #aftersex. But why this need? And what are the risks and precautions?

A few numbers

According to research conducted some time ago by AshleyMadison.com in Britain and disseminated by almost all national media, 71% of men and 69% of women have let themselves be photographed during sexual intercourse at least once in their lives. A widespread habit especially among younger people, to “demonstrate that digital technologies are helping to create a more sexually open society” commented Eric Anderson of the University of Winchester. A view not too widely shared because the risks of revenge porn and unauthorized sharing is very high and usually, at least for girls, the insistence from the partner is strong and decisive. This is precisely why it is necessary to be aware and really consenting To share images of their own naked bodies.

Sexting

Another phenomenon that is widespread in this universe of sex 2.0 and is talked about a lot is the sexting. The word originates from the English words sex (sex) and texting (texting) and denotes the sending of more or less sexually explicit messages, texts and images, mainly via cell phone or other devices. It is for all intents and purposes a hot approach in a digital key, aimed at thearousal of the receiver but also of the sender. The FCP Continuing Education in Psychology article argues that the 14.8% of adolescents worldwide send sexts, while the 27.4% receive them. Usually, erotic messages are exchanged, whether they are audio or photographs of nudity, details of one’s body, or sex had together in the past.

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Motivations, between curiosity and remembrance

There are many reasons why we photograph or videotape ourselves during sex, and just as many reasons why we exchange intimate images. We often film ourselves during intercourse for look at ourselves from the outside at a later time; to see themselves under the eyes of their partner; to find out coldly what practices are most valued. For improve also, especially in new positions or practices with which one is still unfamiliar. Sometimes there is just a great desire to be seen and show themselves; while on other occasions it may be material to be used for arousal the next time, in a voyeurism within the walls of the home. Several couples admit to filming themselves to keep a “keepsake” to look back on when we are old, thinking of the good times.

Against the distance

Sexting, on the other hand, can be very useful in the periods of distance, to feel physically and intimately close when far away. Then, a virtual sexuality may be necessary to feel united and to experience pleasure, through virtual practices and autoeroticism. In addition, sexting allows even the most shy and insecure to put themselves out there, with images, with their bodies and with words, feeling protected by the screen and thus overcoming their fears and the embarrassments. And so far so good.

The forcing

The problem is that sharing is not always physiological in couple sexuality. And it is not enough to say that technology is part of our everyday lives to justify the dissemination of intimate images and videos. Therefore, it is not obvious to speak of liberation and emancipation. In fact, all too often, especially girls admit to consenting to taking pictures during intercourse or sending images of their bodies because it is the partner(s) who insistently ask for it. Then it is accepted for do not disappoint and to keep the requesting partner or mate faithful, albeit with little conviction. In this case, if one can let oneself go more comfortably (but still with caution) in a stable, steady relationship; there goes caution and some extra precautions with fresh acquaintance partners and bedfellows.

Hot pictures and sex selfies: the risks

Awareness, therefore, and the right precautions are essential for healthy and risk-free virtual sexuality. Often underestimating some aspects, one does not always realize that the images shot and taken or sent remain on someone else’s digital device. What if the relationship then does not continue? Or even, if the relationship ends badly and one does not remain on good terms? Take revenge by spreading that intimate material would be in very bad taste, but all too easy and, unfortunately, common, even to the point of psychological violence on the victim that is nothing short of devastating and uncontrolled.

Revenge porn and crimes

Revenge porn has so many victims every day, most frequently women. It is carried out by spreading intimate images without consent, or even taken and shot without the protagonist’s knowledge. One virtual rape for all intents and purposes, by denounce immediately to the Police, without giving in to any blackmail, whereby one falls into the crime of private violence. Content on social media should be immediately reported (there is indeed a “Report” button to request their removal) and on the Privacy Guarantor’s website there is a section with a specific form. Of course, the issue becomes even more sensitive if the following are involved minors, so the practice may be criminally relevant.

Having fun without risk

Taking or exchanging intimate photos per se is not a crime. You have to be aware and careful about what you do and indulge in, but it can also be a fun game and a sometimes useful discovery, when practiced between consenting adults.

How to do it safely then? Here are some tips:

  • Avoid sending photos of the genitalia along with photos of the face, so that they cannot be associated by third parties;

  • uses applications that do not allow image preservation and that block the screenshot;

  • Avoid sharing images and movies with unknown partners and do not give in to requests to film at the first meeting;

  • check your devices and trash sexually oriented content depicting you or other people to prevent unintentional dissemination in the event of theft or loss of the device being used;

  • you always decide what you want to share about your body and who you are, without feeling judged or guilty if you do not meet the other person’s expectations;

  • remember that any kind of violence, including nonphysical violence, should be denounced and ask for help without hesitation in case of pressure.

Bibliographic sources.

FCP Research Continuing Education in Psychology

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