Sex in Front of the Mirror: Recommendations
- Lighting: Soft, diffused lighting is more flattering.
- Positioning: Experiment with angles to find what you and your partner find most visually stimulating.
- Intimacy: Focus on connection and communication, not just the visual aspect.
- Confidence: Embrace your body and enjoy the experience.
- Experimentation: Try new positions and angles to discover what you both enjoy.
- Hygiene: Showering before can enhance the experience.
- Safety: Always use protection to prevent unintended pregnancy and STIs.
https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/teens/sex/safer-sex/using-condoms
https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/sexual-health/in-depth/sexual-health/art-20046368
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Why they like sex in front of the mirror so much
Watching and looking at each other: when it is done sex in front of the mirror our pleasure and arousal multiply, just like our reflection. The reasons why this happens are varied and span multiple components: we see the pleasure that is caused in the other person from a different point of view, increases self-confidence and boldness in experimenting and, no less important, the brain releases dopamine, the neurotransmitter that regulates and conditions pleasure, feelings of gratification and well-being. “While for women the preferred sense in the sexual sphere turns out to be touch, in men the preferred one is sight,” explains Empoli-based psychologist-psychotherapist Bianca Rossi, “so in the mirror this sense is amplified by the double vision, greatly increasing arousal.” Perceived as a minor transgression, or even as a personal porn movie, having sex in front of the mirror is a fantasy that titillates just about everyone, men and women.
Why does sex in front of the mirror appeal so much?
“Sex in front of the mirror is perceived as something transgressive, such as the golden shower, but that not being related to any psychopathological disorder is appreciated simply because it falls within those sexual preferences that may seem perverse, but actually are not, far from even all those practices related to paraphilia,” Dr. Rossi concludes.
Living sexuality with freedom, complicity and respect (for oneself and for one’s partner) is the basis of a healthy and satisfying sex life: that is why talking about one’s desires and fantasies is already a first step towards being able to realize them together. Having sex in front of the mirror is something different, involving a level of intimacy intense and caresses that idea of perversion without risk or side effects. It pleases because the excitement reaches soaring heights: the sight, the most stimulated sense, allows us to discover new angles, to look at the pleasure we give to our partner and to observe our own. Not only that: having sex in front of the mirror increases complicity between partners because they are “forced” to look at each other, but it also increases self-confidence and, why not, launches us into new fantasies with a little extra daring.
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In front of the mirror the pleasure is double
One of the most erotic aspects of having sex in the mirror is, of course, the visual component, which basically includes three aspects: looking at ourselves, looking at the other person, and, finally, being looked at.
- Looking at ourselves. Not everyone has a good relationship with the mirror: we often tend to dwell right where you see that little flaw, that thing you want to change. But that same mirror will be able to return, during intercourse, the seductive lines of the body, the sensual movements we make and the aroused expressions on our faces. Watching ourselves have sex can be a beautiful exercise in self-esteem.
It is normal if, especially initially, you feel some embarrassment: experiencing this emotion without fear and sharing it will only increase your complicity with your partner.
- Looking at the partner. If looking at a reflection of yourself was not enough to increase arousal, there is another aspect to consider: seeing the pleasure that is caused in the other person is extremely exciting, for both men and women. And, probably, that is what makes mirror sex so appreciated.
- Being looked at by your partner. Finally, eye contact: being looked at during sexual intercourse increases desire and erotic fantasy, in an explosion of complicity and passion. In the mirror this happens from perspectives and different angles, doubling the chances of being looked at.
Similarly, a blindfold can amplify all the other senses and the awareness of being admired by the partner.
Using the mirror even when we are alone…
Why not, the mirror can also be used to experience pleasure in solitude. We can experience on our own to get to know each other better, to increase the confidence in ourselves and discover new sides of pleasure. Playing and having fun on our own allows us to know what we like and what we don’t, what has tickled our fancy and what we’d like to try doing… so that we can make it easier and more straightforward with our partner!
Three tips for having sex in the mirror
“All you need is a mirror and you’re done”: yes, that’s right, creating the setting for having sex in front of the mirror is quite simple because the only thing you need is the mirror itself. However, there are tricks you can follow to enhance the practice and amplify the pleasure:
- What mirror can we use? Any mirror will do: in the bedroom, in the hall or even the one in the bathroom, all mirrors found in the house can be perfect. The important thing is that there is an exchange of complicit glances and the game can begin! If desired, you can dim the lights or bring in soft ones from outside, or even light candles-this can help set the mood and perhaps break the ice especially the first few times.
- Where should we look? In front of the mirror it is possible to focus, as we have seen, on several points: the face, the body, the movements, both our own and our partner’s. We have before us a new visual and this allows us to discover new aspects, to see (and see ourselves) from new perspectives during sexual intercourse, and most importantly, it is possible to admire our partner’s pleasure, which is definitely one of the most exciting aspects of this practice. The important thing is to experiment, have fun and not do anything that might make us or our partner uncomfortable.
- Experimenting in fantasy? The complicity and trust gained in front of the mirror could bestow new freedoms, ideas or fantasies to be fulfilled: for example, we could launch into a sensual dance or we could give a command to start a submission game that starts right from the use of the mirror… experimenting in respect of the other person is always a great way to get to know each other, get to know each other, and be good together!
