Is Noisy Lovemaking More Beautiful?
- Subjective preference varies greatly; some find it arousing, others find it embarrassing.
- Consider your partner’s comfort level before engaging in loud activities.
- Noise can be a sign of passion and excitement for some couples.
- Excessive noise can be disruptive to others, especially in shared living spaces.
- Communication is crucial; discuss comfort levels and boundaries beforehand.
- Consider the potential impact on neighbours and consider noise reduction. https://www.healthline.com/health/sex/noisy-sex
- A healthy relationship fosters open communication about intimacy. https://www.webmd.com/sex/guide/sex-and-intimacy
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Truth and fiction of noisy sex
Almost every movie film contains them: scenes of beautiful, romantic, passionate sex, united by the overwhelming passion that makes us dream, it is true, but that takes sex to a noisy level, to say the least! But how much is true about the noisy sex? Do you really like it?
Why do people like to have noisy sex–and who?
In the common imagination, noisy sex likes because it communicates the involvement and the pleasure, which is so intense that you cannot keep it in: it is liberating and rewarding, for both of you. Of course, it is not the only reason for moaning in bed and, more importantly, it is not the only way to have beautiful, passionate and engaging intercourse: silent sex is another aspect of sexual intercourse and one is not inferior to the other and, most importantly, one does not exclude the other… there is only to discover what makes us feel better!
Women vs men: who is louder in bed?
The primacy undoubtedly belongs to the women: they are the ones who turn up the volume and, with moans, screams, and words, often lead sex to be loud. There are no scientific studies quantifying that women make more noise during sex (i.e., they emit more moans or say more words than men), but there are studies that have reported that in bed it is women among the two genders who make more sounds.
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Why is there screaming during sex?
There are multiple reasons why screaming and moaning are part of sexual intercourse:
- Physical demonstration of pleasure: Whether unconsciously or not, producing sounds and moans during sexual intercourse (even if not in conjunction with orgasm) is a way, more or less naturally, to communicate to one’s partner one’s involvement and their own pleasure. Women use them during intercourse to convey what they like best, what their partner is doing particularly well … in short, it is a way of telling their partner to keep it up! Different from faking it, which we will see later, making sounds during sex is a way to please the partner (and also themselves) and increase their own and others’ arousal.
- Physiological appearance: just as during exertion in the gym or sports, in the movements in sexual intercourse we can also naturally emit moans, sounds coming from the mouth, as physical exertion.
- Do not disappoint expectations (movie exaggerations): It is known that movies often create expectations that we want not to disappoint in reality. Therefore, we often find ourselves emulating what we see (and hear) in order not to disregard these expectations. Again, this does not necessarily mean faking it, but one could probably exaggerate in moaning, thus making sex louder than we would normally have sex.
- Fiction: An article from CNN reports on a 2011 study in which scholars Gayle Brewer of the University of Central Lancashire and Colin Hendrie of the University of Leeds reported that women often emit moans not so much for pleasure but for other reasons. Sixty-six percent of respondents would do so to arouse their partners, 87 percent to boost their self-esteem. Another factor for which women emit moans (and simulate orgasms) is the boredom and, consequently, the “demand” to end sexual intercourse as soon as possible.
Then again, “When Harry Met Sally” teaches: the simulated orgasm in the bar, with the iconic “I’ll have what she’s having” scene, is emblematic of how, especially women, manage to fake, both orgasm and sexual pleasure… but for whose benefit?
Moreover, in addition to moans and words, let us not forget that there are also the words and phrases, more commonly known as “dirty talk,” that can inflame the partner (and even themselves). There are those who come naturally to them, there are those who challenge themselves and push their limits (finding them arousing), but saying erotic words during sex or foreplay is a way to stimulate fantasies and increase libido.
What if you prefer silent sex instead?
We have seen it, erotic fantasies, but also the film world (not necessarily pornographic), lead us to imagine that good sex is that made of moans, screams and words. And there is nothing wrong with having sex like that! At the same time, quieter, calmer and quieter sexual relations are also completely normal: they exist and are just as beautiful and fulfilling. Gentle, slow, pleasurable movements will accompany the couple’s breaths, perhaps with a song in the background, during the silent sex.
There is no right or wrong way to experience sexuality, there is only what feels good to us, together with our partner. The important thing is to communicate to the other person what we like and what we don’t, and above all, one thing does not exclude the other: there may be times in life when we prefer more impetuous and noisy sex, while in other cases we appreciate quieter sex more. Whether whispered in the ear or shouted, the atmosphere will always be just right for sharing one’s pleasures… and the fellowship of the couple will benefit!
