Sexual intercourse: normality and strange things
When having sex with a person we like is normal To feel like trying new things: they may be strange, unusual things, different from normal, but not wrong or to be repressed. So what to do when you have sexual fantasies that you want to act out? Simple: enact them without feeling guilty!
Obviously, it is important to share what we want to do with our partner and, always paying attention to using precautions and respecting each other, begin to discover sex even through unusual things or strange situations.
What is strange and what is normal in bed?
In general it is considered normal what is done by most people, while what is unusual, strange or different is considered “abnormal”: even in sexuality it works the same way. These dictates are perceived mainly at the social level: it is society that decides what is right and what is wrong or decides things that are normal to do and things that are branded as strange, even in bed.
Instead, it is crucial to know that the Sexual practices perceived as strange are completely normal and it is important to know that one is not the only one who feels the urge to try something different. If these result in obsessions or particularly “hard” perversions, then we speak of paraphilias, a term given for sexual deviance. In this case, it is important to distinguish the desire, fantasy, and urge to try erotic practices from an actual disorder.
Strange things in sex: some examples
What might be some examples of intimate situations or attitudes that are considered weird in sex? They can range from more typical and usual experiences to more daring ones: so from pissinig to BDSM, from threesomes to spanking, for example. If Experienced consciously and serenely by the couple can become a incredibly exciting fun and erotic.
Vaginal penetration is not the only penetration that exists
It is certainly considered the most classic and the most normal, precisely: penetration of the vagina with the penis. What does not involve this type of penetration is considered strange: from the anal penetration to that with objects (sex toys and plugs). If you feel like experimenting with new ways of penetration, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. The important thing is to do it safely, for yourself and your partner:
- Use sex toys is better than using everyday objects because they are created specifically for this purpose
- Using the lubricant amplifies pleasure
- If you decide to do or receive anal penetration, it is important to change the condom If you then want to switch to vaginal penetration
Using lubricant is not synonymous with dryness
True, the lubricant is often used to remedy vaginal dryness problems, but it can also be used to increase pleasure, not only with sex toys, but also during any penetration. Condom lubricant is sometimes not enough, which is why you may decide to use the water- or silicone-based one or oil and thus decrease friction, amplifying fluidity. There is nothing wrong with using it, alone or as a couple.
Threesome
The threesome sex is a very common fantasy. It is an intense erotic experience, something totally unusual to implement, and there is no shame or embarrassment to be felt and you want to have a threesome. Lend attention to whom you invite as a third person, leave communication always open with the partner and the third person, and do only things that are good for everyone involved. Le precautions are more important than ever against unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases.
BDSM
Also everything that is BDSM is considered not customary: there are practices that are outside the normality known as such, and therefore you may feel strange if you think about, propose, or have certain experiences such as the bondage, role-playing, stepping on or being stepped on (barefoot or in high heels). This is exactly what we said at the beginning of the article: being practices that socially do not fit into what is considered normal, they can seem like things totally out of the ordinary. And a little bit of that is also what they like: making strange and different things is especially exciting. But if your fantasies lead you to explore these practices, there is nothing wrong with that: just listen to yourself and have fun.
Sexual intercourse: the strange places to have it
The places identified as normal places to have sex are the house and the bed, at most the couch when you have a free house available. But there are other places to have sex that are considered different, strange, new: Having sex in the open air or in the car, for example. Of course there are additional cautions to pay attention to, but making love in different places is a fantasy you might have to do something new and, moreover, easy to implement.
These are just a few examples of things other than normal in sex, but everyone experiences their own strange erotic fantasies in a completely subjective way. In conclusion, sexuality is such a big and personal world that it is right and good Do exactly what you feel like doing together with your partner: either stay in the normalcy because you like it that way, or even go outside the customary, if you like to experience something new.
