Recommendations for Discovering Taboos about Girls’ Sexuality
- Understand societal expectations often influence girls’ sexual expression.
- Explore historical and cultural perspectives on female sexuality.
- Recognize that concepts of purity, shame, and pleasure vary widely.
- Consider the impact of media and religion on girls’ sexual development.
- Examine how power dynamics influence sexual agency.
- Acknowledge the existence of sexual coercion and abuse.
- Seek information from diverse sources like https://www.scarleteen.com/ and https://www.plannedparenthood.org/.
Fortunately, times are changing; some stereotypes are overcome and several taboos have been released. Not all of them, unfortunately, and it must be admitted that some judgments and bad thoughts are so deeply rooted that they still influence behavior, especially of girls and especially of the sexual and intimate sphere. However, these are beliefs that find no statistical or scientific proof and which we try, hopefully for the last time, to refute.
Girls have less desire
False, or at least you cannot generalize. This belief is so macho that it has generated a term, frigid, which has a commonly negative and offensive value, now quite outdated fortunately. Moreover, science says quite the opposite: the level of libido and desire is determined and regulated by a hormone, the testosterone, mistakenly associated with the male body only. Although in smaller amounts, testosterone is also produced by women, in the ovaries and adrenal glands. For both he and she, there are times of peak production, which coincide with the early hours of the morning, between 6:30 and 7:30 am. In this time interval the bodies seem to be more sexually inclined and the mind still free from worries and thoughts, regardless of gender.
Are you trying?
Just think of it as him having to do the first step. Let’s dispel this myth of the bold and brave prince charming! No, expressing interest in a guy is not a sign of little seriousness and no, she doesn’t embarrass him, or at least she shouldn’t (if she is embarrassed or scandalized the problem is hers alone). She, like him, is a person free to express curiosity, as long as it is done respectfully. Likewise, it is wrong to think that a he shy and reserved is a “soft wimp” or not very strong. Each person has his or her own way of manifesting emotions and intentions: let’s try to go beyond the role-playing stereotyped, because a valuable opportunity could be missed.
Orgasm at all costs
Trying to experience sexuality and sexual intercourse exclusively with the achievement of ‘orgasm Is a basic mistake. Pleasure is like a wave, and intercourse can be compared to a beautiful journey, extremely intense and from enjoy at every stage. Not for all women does the moment of maximum pleasure coincide with orgasm, and not all women achieve it in the same way. Female orgasms are of many types and only exploring the body and experimenting, on our own and with our partner(s), it is possible to understand when, how, and where our highest sensitivity lies. Thinking about it, however, makes the work more difficult: the active brain and the expectations inhibit and make the body and mind too contracted to really let go of pleasure. Advice? Enjoy the journey, without thinking too much about the destination.
One body, many orgasms
Even talking about orgasm, in the singular, is wrong. Women can experience different types of orgasm, perceived and generated in different ways. We generally refer to thevaginal orgasm, intense, causing pubococcygeal and perianal contractions, which are followed by extreme relaxation. It is defined as clitoral orgasm that which is achieved by stimulating the clitoris: powerful, very deep and widespread. L’anal orgasm, not too common among women (there is much preconception to unhinge on this, too), is that which comes from posterior stimulation. External stimulation leads to thefusion orgasm (from own or partner’s hand) or at thecontrived orgasm Whether the credit is due to sex toys. Unlike him, and precisely because of these varied sensitivities, women can achieve multiple orgasms during intercourse: thesequential orgasm involves one peak of pleasure after another; themultiple orgasm consists of multiple orgasms without pause, in waves but continuous.
The clitoris is not everything
A separate discussion should be made about the female body and the awareness that women have of their own physicality and pleasure. On the clitoris, people are mistaken starting with the name, which is often declined to the masculine. The common imagination also paints this feminine spot in a completely distorted way. The clitoris is not the little button the size of a raisin that is protected in the junction of the two labia minora. That little button is just the tip of a much more extensive musculature, which develops in the shape of an inverted Y toward the inside of the pelvis, downward on each side of the vulva. The clitoris contains 8 thousand nerve endings (the penis 3 thousand, for comparison) and becomes turgid because it is made of the same erectile tissue as the penis. It is actually a very sensitive, which-if stimulated-can lead to intense pleasure and deep orgasms and contractions; but it is equally delicate, and throwing yourself into it, without too much delicacy, can be unpleasant, even annoying. The advice of sexual health experts and professionals is to explore one’s clitoris to understand its sensitivities, and then be able to guide one’s partner (or partners) without shame and inhibition.
Penetration
Penetration can bring great pleasure, this is true. But it is equally true that it is not everything, that it is not obligatory or even to be taken for granted. In fact. L’outercourse is the non-penetrative sex and like it a lot, more and more. The word comes from “outer,” meaning external, and “course,” short for “sexual intercourse.” Non-penetrative sex (any kind of penetration, whether oral, vaginal or anal, is excluded) is an alternative, an option that people come to for many reasons or that they experiment with to rediscover cuddling, bodies, play, taking some of the focus off the genitals. One of the points in favor of non-penetration? You take more time, you rediscover a’new and different intimacy. It can be a solution in periods at a distance, in the case of momentary or long therapy or disability, in the case of boredom.
Contraceptives are taken care of
Never delegate one’s own health and never assume that it is the other person who thinks about how to protect the relationship. Claiming to protect oneself with a contraceptive indicates a form of respect for self and other; it is emotional intelligence; awareness and maturity. Pulling a condom out of your wallet does not mean you are an unserious girl; on the contrary. So no shame in taking the first step if he/she is not the one to do it: it takes very little to spoil the game and nothing is worth the risk of getting sick or getting pregnant without desiring pregnancy.
Total protection
Contraceptives are not all the same and provide dversa protection. There are so many models to choose from, for every situation, depending on your needs and habits. However, be careful to recognize them in order to know how to choose them. The condom male or female protects against the sexually transmitted diseases and from the risk of unwanted pregnancy if used from the very first contacts. The pill or other non-barrier hormonal contraceptives on the other hand, prevent fertilization but do not protect against infection and disease, so they are most comfortable for long-term, trusting relationships but not for casual intercourse. Informing yourself about all contraceptives is important to make a informed choice.
Bedfellow
Women are also capable of experiencing the sex without involvement, and they are increasingly good at it without guilt or shame. It is no longer true that men can manage the relationship without expectation; while she falls in love immediately. Bedfellows and bedfellows are those people who do not want commitment, who prefer not to make promises, living the here and now without planning for tomorrow. There is nothing wrong with that, just make things clear right away, regardless of gender and sexual orientation.
Experiment and get to know each other
On masturbation male is told all kinds of things, including many false myths starting from blindness to infertility. Yet autoeroticism is a time of knowledge of one’s own body and awareness-important at the individual level but also at the couple level. A person, man or woman, who is aware of his or her own pleasure and body is a safer and more casual partner. Understanding what the pleasure zones, the rhythms of movements, and sensitivities are is a dutiful act for a healthy and aware sexuality. Experiment, that is the invitation, and listen to what the body is saying, so that you can then research and recreate it in company as well.
Foreword: fantasies, freedom and no pattern
There is a premise, from which perhaps the whole attitude to intimacy and sexuality is prescinding: there are no predetermined patterns to refer to. It is not true that an abundant sen is more fun or beautiful than a less generous one; no it is not true that large lips have only one shape and size; there is no such thing as a must or must not do.
Let’s get rid of. Anal sex, special fantasies, sensational locations, threesomes, cross-dressing–you name it. Everything applies in sexuality, even things we never thought of or desired before. There are no concessions exclusive to him; there is no reason to be ashamed if there is respect and sharing. Let us stop thinking that there are dirty, excessive, shameful thoughts; or that the woman should follow but cannot propose or suggest. The only thing to be ashamed of is the violence, in any of its forms; it is inhibition or renunciation. Otherwise we dare, we experiment, we ask, we lead. It benefits the relationship, the bodies, the pleasure and fulfillment of him and her.
