Regaining Passion in Relationships
- Rekindle intimacy through shared experiences. Plan date nights, try new activities together.
- Prioritize quality time. Put away distractions and engage in meaningful conversations.
- Practice active listening and empathy. Understand each other’s perspectives and needs.
- Express appreciation and affection. Small gestures can reignite the spark.
- Communicate openly and honestly. Share feelings and desires without fear of judgment.
- Consider couples therapy. Professional guidance can help identify and address issues.
- Focus on physical intimacy. Regular physical contact strengthens connection.
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There are the moments of fatigue, then there is the routine, boredom, so much time together, and there are peaks and troughs of mood and even sexuality. It happens then that the couple’s chemistry weakens a little. It happens, it is part of relational and emotional life; but there are also many ways to prevent it or to regain the passion and balances for time.
Stress, the first cause of decreased libido
The main obstacle to healthy and fulfilling relationships and sexuality is the stress, individual but goes to affect the health status and well-being of the couple. A person who is stressed, worried, or depressed brings shadow and does so in relationships as well. This is not a fault, of course, but it is what happens. During periods of great worry, fatigue, and stress, in addition to feeling less inclined to be social, the libido drops. Often there is a closure toward the partner and a desire for solitude and introspection; at other times there is a desire and need to cuddling more than eroticism and sexual play.
The explanation lies again and again in hormones produced by the brain, not coincidentally considered the body’s first sexual organ. Anxiety and stress stimulate the production of cortisol, the hormone of closure, precisely, alertness and escape, which has opposite role to the hormones of love and affectivity. This is combined with a psychological condition and mood that does not facilitate pleasure. A mind full of thoughts is unable to let go of enjoyment and the other person.
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After a long time together
It is nothing new that time flattens things out a little bit. Gone are the excitement and adrenaline of the early days, and the errands of the daily grind, fits and starts and routines take their place, especially if there are children involved. According to surveys by the dating-extramarital.com portal of 2,000 members, half of whom were men and half women, the 42% of respondents cheats after two years from the beginning of the relationship.
“Based on respondents’ statements at the end of the second year a balance is broken within the relationship: 29% explained that they looked elsewhere for attention that was no longer coming from their partner, for 11% passion had cooled, and 2% blamed infidelity on the everyday problems that have caused estrangement within the couple. Most cheating is concentrated in a period of settling in the relationship, between the excitement of the early days and the security of the decade-long relationship.”
Taking care of each other
In a long-standing relationship, if the will is to maintain it and continue to be together, it is good to prevent a crisis with a few small measures. Meanwhile, attention to each other and caring. One must remember this and sometimes force it a little. The kiss in the morning is not obvious, nor is telling each other that you love each other or repeating your commitment to be there. Writing to each other a letter, organizing a dinner party, complimenting each other. Caring for the relationship goes right through the everyday and is the routine taken for granted to kill magic.
Planned sex
Even with respect to sexuality one must be alert. The same positions, perhaps at the same time of the weekend, that confidence that becomes commonplace create boredom. When even sex becomes a bit predictable or when intimacy becomes the last of our thoughts, some professionals recommend the maintenance sex, or rather calendared. It really means to give oneself appointment intimate, mark it in the diary, as if it were a checkup at the dentist. While for some this takes the romance and poetry out of the encounter, for others thewaiting and the preparation to that meeting bring attention and care back to each other and to that moment.
A vacation together
Carving out some free time together is always a great idea to get together. There are no one-size-fits-all recipes, but you need to catch up on the passions and interests that unite the couple. Some people might enjoy a trip adventurous or far away, to learn about places never seen and to find oneself surrounded by the new and moved by curiosity. For others, a time of relaxation in the usual mountain house, but keeping out PCs, cell phones and even friends, for a dedicated time for two. Or a course together, be it canoeing, photography, tango, theater or cooking: it will be an opportunity to do something different together and find the complicity of all time.
Tantra for breathing together
Practicing the tantra is an opportunity that can help couples find each other, with the goal of getting back to vibrating together, trying to activate a’strong energy, vital. There are different schools and practices, but the concept is to open oneself to a powerful energy of unconditional, sexual love toward oneself and the other person.
The four magic words? Breathe: the breath lights the fire, including the sexual fire, and the couple learns to breathe together. The sound, of voices and music, which helps to live and increase sexual energy, brings frequency and expansion. Then there is the movement of the pelvis, in sex but also in dancing for two, which is helps pleasure and creates atmosphere. Finally, the look, to return to look at oneself and surround oneself with beauty: the space should be beautified and made cozy and intimate with candles and scents.
Sex toys and new practices
Routines can also be broken by trying play, getting help from accessories and pleasure tools. I sex toys can indeed help the couple experiment and get to know each other, and once they get over the awkwardness of the proposal, it will be a lot of fun to choose the model, benefits and uses together. The same goes for experimenting with new practices: several couples rediscover themselves with the BDSM, creating role-play between dominant and dominated, and trying out new non-traditional practices for pleasure. In short, experiment, guiding each other, discovering each other without shame is one of the main rules to avoid boredom and distraction from each other.
Couples therapy
The communication however, is the basis of everything. Telling each other that you are bored, admitting that you feel nostalgic for the attention you once had, asking each other to renew commitments and love, with frankness and great honesty is the secret. We always find a moment to talk, to confront each other, to ask a very trivial question: and you, how are you? If we cannot do this on our own, or if the static has already become too entrenched, we ask for help. Couples therapy can help address difficult issues and dissolve knots that threaten to lead to blocking. It is a investment human, couple and individual, immense.
